The Most Pleasurable & Effective Way to Identify the Boundaries that Support You to Thrive 🌟💓💦

 

You can identify the correct distance or placement for anything in your life based on where your body becomes the most receptive & responsive to subtle information.

 

This will usually mean you open to feeling more pleasure & become more orgasmic.

 

This distinction happens because when something is NOT at the right distance or placement in your bio-field,

 

Your body braces, dissociates, numbs, tightens, freezes, or floods - which are all reactions that make orgasmic states & subtle sensing less accessible.

 

One of the reasons women can experience difficulty or disinterest in feeling pleasure is because we become “full.”

 

This “fullness” is a saturation of information in the nervous system due to not properly setting boundaries with people & perceived priorities.

 

Which is why when women get enough space from all the stimulation in their lives, their pleasure-sensing & orgasmicness naturally comes back online.

 

However, many women struggle to “empty out” enough to return to their naturally sensitive & responsive state for much of their life,

 

Because they are unable to address the patterns which inhibit them from setting the boundaries that support their system to thrive.

 

Thus, they end up overstimulated & numbed without even realizing it.

 

Unaware & disconnected from the amount of pleasure they could be experiencing in their daily life just from identifying the boundaries that are right for them.

 

You can experiment right now with which boundaries support pleasure & the greatest responsiveness in your body:

 

Choose an object in the room to represent someone or something in your life.

 

Now experiment with moving that object closer & further away from you, until you find the distance that allows the greatest sensitivity & ease to enter your body.

 

You might even experiment with visualizing moving something all the way to outer space, to create temporary contrast and perhaps relief where it is needed.

 

As you move this object (physically, or just in your mind's eye - although I do recommend experimenting with an actual object), what do you notice?

 

At what distance does your body soften, become receptive to more subtle information, and even experience hints of pleasure?

 

 

If you want to effortlessly cultivate pleasure & ease in your life, start with refining your boundaries.

 

Once again, it’s one of those things where choosing ease is not necessarily “easy.”

 

It takes ongoing study of the subtle signals your body gives you,

 

To become aware of which structures & boundaries support you to feel more pleasure & sense more meaningful information.

 

 

 

Resources to support your journey:

 

Rediscovering Rest™

I partnered with my close friend Silas (who refers to himself as a “fatigue survivor,” among many other things) to compile his wisdom into a course that is better than anything else I’ve experienced for reaching states of deep rest that support immense clarity, creativity, & of course - pleasure!

 

In fact, Silas is so good at guiding people (and especially women) into deep states of rest, that he is known for talking women off into orgasm!

 

Part of what happens when you experience the restful states that Silas guides you into, is you get to experience the space & contrast of setting things down in your life, such that new boundaries & subtler sensing comes online.
 

You can read the original email I wrote revealing my journey of rapid recovery from burnout with Silas’s help here.

A recent testimonial from RR: 

 

“The course with Silas… I am flooded with gratitude into every cell of my body! It's exactly what I have been looking for! I feel a very particular energy that comes from your work with him through the course. You have something very special going on there in Austin…”

 

Join Rediscovering Rest™ here.

 

 

Viva La Vagina™ 2.0 Membership

70+ lessons & guided practices to learn to hear the Voice of Your Pussy (hint: she is very good at letting you know the boundaries you need to uphold, once you learn to hear her).

Join us here.

 

1-1 Voxer Coaching

Embodied boundary work is a common theme I support my 1-1 clients with. I am currently only accepting Voxer clients (Voice Messaging & Text Support). 

Apply for FREE to see if we are a good fit here.