WELCOME!

This course is designed to support you on the magical journey of healing and awakening your vagina through the physical practice of Self-Yoni Massage. The wisdom & teachings in this module will support you to awaken WAY more pleasure, heal sexual trauma, and release suppressed emotions & experiences that are limiting the orgasmic flow of energy in your body. We access all of this through the inside of the vagina!

I encourage you to approach this work with the attitude that all is welcome - all emotions, feelings, sensations, and desires. Being open to your unique, unfolding experience and letting go of expectations of yourself is essential to this process.

Before you begin, be sure to join our Private Facebook Group. Share your intentions & progress with the amazing community of women doing this work - as it will help you to integrate your own journey AND it will support the learning of others.

This mini-guide is a taste of our Signature Online Course for Women, Viva La Vagina. To access the full course you can use the code EMPOWEREDYONI for 30% off! Browse the course details here.

Lastly, I highly recommend using a therapeutic wand for this practice - specifically The Cervix Wand™. You can purchase this wand for 25% off using the code CERVIXWAND25. Note: only redeemable once per client.

For any other products in our shop, you’re welcome to use the exclusive code VAGINAPERKS for 15% off your order (course members only).

How to get out of your head?

Q: "I feel somewhat numb to pleasure, and often stuck in my head. What to do?"

A: Dissociating from the body into the mind is a very common response to early trauma or experiences in which your system did not feel safe. Thus, in order to welcome more pleasure & awareness back into the body, we need to create more safety. Think of this as your body slowly “thawing out” of a freeze-response. The safer you feel, the more easily your body can gently unfreeze. We create this safety by celebrating ourselves, focusing on the pleasure we ARE experiencing, noticing what we CAN feel in the body, and being compassionate. When you find yourself stuck in your head, be gentle with yourself in these moments rather than condemning or criticizing. Acknowledge that this is a response your system learned because at one time you did not feel safe to be IN your body.

By continuing to bring your awareness into the body via whole-body self touch & massage, you are learning that it IS safe to be in the body now. Note that emotions & memories related to past experiences in which you dissociated from the body may arise as you become re-acquainted with being in the body. Be gentle with yourself as this happens, and remember that all you need to “do” in these moments is be present to what you feel. If the feelings or sensations become overwhelming, simple yet powerful ways to stabilize your system include:

• looking around the room (to let your animal nervous system know it is safe)

• touching your body in a firm, grounding way

• hugging yourself or asking a loved one to hold you

• taking a walk and noticing what the bottoms of your feet feel like

• spending time in nature

• crawling very slowly on your feet and hands mindfully, noticing how the floor or earth supports you

Other ways to promote safety as you progress through the practice of self-yoni massage include creating a comfortable & private environment to explore in, and honouring any resistance that arises rather than forcing your way past it.

Noteworthy Q&A on Self-Yoni Massage

Q: "I have a question regarding yoni massages. I've done them 3 or 4 times now and every time I do, I do find there is pain, I breathe through it, do pressure points and little circular massages, and today I actually released a bit through crying. But most of the time after I do a yoni massage I experience sharp pelvic pain & cramping. Would you suggest that I am doing something wrong or this is part of the process of healing?"

A: Tenderness, cramping, etc. after your yoni massage can definitely occur - on both a physical & emotional level. It's super important to practice gentleness as you progress through this work. Give your nervous system lots of time to integrate after each yoni massage and definitely don't expect to eradicate ALL pain, tension, etc. within a short period of time. Sometimes a massive release can occur for women that results in the alleviation of serious pain, but other times it's a slower process of healing & awakening.

My suggestion is to check with your yoni (i.e. actually ASK her if she is ready for another massage) and allow lots of time in between each session if you are noticing tenderness, and especially sharp pain.

Ultimately this is a practice that gets integrated into your life more intuitively as you become accustomed to it - meaning that it can be something you do before/after self-pleasure, as a practice on its own, or simply whenever you sense that your pelvic area is starting to hold on to tension & stress.

Keywords: gentleness & patience!

Noteworthy Q&A on De-Armouring the Cervix

Q: “I am unable to reach my cervix with my fingers, so I am using The Cervix Wand for massage. However, my cervix is quite numb so I’m unable to feel how much pressure I am really applying. I have awareness of my cervix when I REALLY focus, but at the same time I also can’t feel much. How do I know if I’m applying too much pressure when I can’t even feel how much pressure I’m applying due to numbness?

A: Firstly, Numbness is common and it is also common for the cervix to re-armour herself if she is not given loving attention for a period of time. With regards to applying pressure, remember that MORE pressure doesn’t mean you are necessarily “doing” or achieving more. Very very gentle touch with loving intention & inviting your cervix to speak to you is all that is needed. If you find that she is numb, applying more pressure will not necessarily be the thing that wakes her up. You can also communicate with her, even if you cannot feel the physical touch because of the numbness - as you are touching your cervix with the wand, ask her how it is for her. Ask her how she wants to be touched. She will speak to you :)

Q: “Does the cervix ever gain FULL feeling or is it always kind of a little bit more dull than other aspects inside the vagina?”

A: She can become the most sensitive part of the vagina. I encourage you not to place an expectation on “getting somewhere” but rather make the practice about a loving conversation with your cervix. Deeply honouring her, rather than needing her to become different than how she is.

Audio: Healing Sexual Shame

In this recording I discuss the fundamental framework for healing and addressing sexual shame (and other strong emotional responses that commonly arise during this journey).

Key takeaways:

• Understanding the experience of shame as a breakthrough

• The two common responses to the arising of shame

• How to healthily integrate shame

Integration

Share your experience of self-yoni massage in our Private Facebook Group. What has been most challenging about it? What did you learn about yourself and your yoni?

Use this as an opportunity to ask any questions you have so far - and receive support from all of us.

Courtney xx

P.S. If you have completed the guide & would like to submit a testimonial, please do so using the form below. I’m grateful for your feedback and would love to hear from you!

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