When NOT to Help Someone Navigate Blindspots

It is NOT healthy to continue engaging with someone who is dead-set on making someone else responsible for what they feel.⁠ ⁠

For my safety, it is absolutely imperative that those I relate with have the capacity to take FULL responsibility for what arises in themselves when I set a boundary.⁠ ⁠

First of all, I trust deeply in my ability to communicate cleanly (even in highly activated situations).⁠ ⁠

And - I am always open to learning how I can communicate in a way that is easier for someone to receive.⁠ ⁠

But I have zero tolerance for projections or making-me-wrong in response to expressing my truth.⁠ ⁠

𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝟭𝟬𝟬% 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻. 𝗧𝗼 𝗺𝗲𝗲𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂, 𝗶𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝘆.⁠ ⁠

But if you cannot recognize that what arises for you, is for YOU to carry & feel, then I am not available to relate.⁠ ⁠

I will not work hard to help someone navigate their blind spots at the cost of safety for my inner little one.⁠ ⁠

This is a necessary distinction to make for those of us on a path of conscious growth & relating.⁠ ⁠

Many of us have made enormous progress in learning how to make it SAFE for the inner child - especially as it relates to identifying & setting boundaries.⁠ ⁠

When we do not 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 the progress we have made by remaining in relationships where we are attacked or projected onto when expressing our truth,⁠ ⁠

Or relationships in which we have to 𝗱𝗲𝗳𝗲𝗻𝗱 a boundary repeatedly,⁠ ⁠

Trust with our inner child begins to rupture once again and this is actually re-traumatizing.⁠ ⁠

It takes enormous diligence to repair that trust all over again.⁠ ⁠

Though not easy, when we walk away from these relationships at the risk of being misunderstood, we create space only for those who ENHANCE the safety we have worked so hard to create for ourselves.⁠