When the Body Says Yes to Bad Boys

You can have all the "ideal relating" strategies & rules in your head...⁠

You can understand attachment theory, co-dependency, your triggers, etc etc...⁠

But when the body says yes, you've got two options:⁠

1) Sit on the sidelines, fight it & try to analyze your way out of making the same "mistakes" again.⁠

2) OR, go in.⁠

Go into the relating with as much presence & awareness as possible, and recognize that your body is saying YES for a reason: growth.⁠

In my experience, no matter how much intellectual awareness I cultivate, my body still becomes activated by trauma & patterns that have not been INTEGRATED.⁠

This happened again recently as I met a man who I immediately recognized, matches the attachment imprint that I've been drawn to in many men before...⁠

While my mind was like, "this again?" and I spent the first several days trying to "solve" my way out of the relating to avoid feeling my own attachment wound once again,⁠

I eventually succumbed to the realization: I needed to get in the game 🏀⁠

To go in, and recognize that once again I am being invited to deepen my capacity to meet MYSELF.⁠

To hold my own inner child who still wants her parents to be there for her in the way they couldn't be.⁠

No question, there is a time & place to take healthy space, and to navigate triggers SLOWLY.⁠

But it's the embodied experience that heals us. Not just intellectual understanding.⁠