The Healthy Expression of the Dark Masculine
The embodiment of the dark masculine, where he takes her beyond her fears & resistance and opens her further into love,
Is a healthy & necessary range to have access to.
But when it becomes the only avenue to take her deeper,
It becomes abuse.
The nervous system is not meant to constantly expand through force.
There are very specific moments that call for this kind of dark masculine penetration,
And identifying these moments requires great attunement & sensitivity --> not only to her, but to oneself.
If you cannot identify the subtle boundaries within your own nervous system's range,
Then you will not be able to identify them in her.
YES, she wants you to take her deeper than she can go alone.
But this depth can occur through safety & gentleness.
It can occur through the dance of gently opening together.
The issue becomes when the longing for depth is entangled with intensity/force.
And the dark masculine is utilized as a PATTERN to try and achieve this,
Rather than the appropriate RESPONSE to a moment that calls for it.
The dark masculine is a beautiful thing, and it's essential that he can enter that range in himself.
But in truth, it is called upon & evoked by HER.
Something in her body will invite it.
It is not up to his mind to decide when to "take her" beyond her edge.
If he is truly attuned (first to himself, and thus to her) --> his body can feel her call.
This is the HEALTHY expression of the dark masculine.