“If I trigger you, it’s a GOOD thing!”

Regardless of the words a teacher is saying, their EMBODIED TRANSMISSION is ultimately what you are receiving.⁠

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Their 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒆 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒏𝒔𝒎𝒊𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 is not recognized by the mind.⁠

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It is recognized by the body.⁠

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So while the statement of, “if I trigger you, it’s a good thing!” sounds growth-oriented,⁠

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It’s more often than not, an underground hook which promotes mistrust of one’s own body, and carries a strong undertone of gaslighting.⁠

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(It’s also a clever way for the “coach” to cope with the reality of not everyone liking them).⁠

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There’s a difference between someone CELEBRATING you for meeting your triggers.⁠

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Versus someone subtley DEFENDING themselves by highlighting the “good sign” that your trigger is.⁠

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It is common for my own teacher to appropriately celebrate me when I meet my own triggers.⁠

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Or even to let me know when it’s healthy that something uncomfortable is arising.⁠

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The difference, is that he is in deep support of MY process - not in defence of HIS process.⁠

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Again, your body is what detects the difference.⁠

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HOW YOUR BODY FEELS in response to someone’s teachings is #1 🏆 ⁠

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Because that is the ENCODED INFORMATION you are receiving from them.⁠

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Which means all of their own patterns & distortions are transmitted WITH their teachings. ⁠

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Of course your triggers reveal areas for potential integration.⁠

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And - I would be very wary of a teacher whose transmission my body doesn’t like, and who then says “if you’re triggered by me, it’s a GOOD thing!” 🤦‍♀️⁠

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P.S. Cultivating Embodied Boundaries is part of what I teach in my favourite creation, The Art of Cock Worship.