The Empowered Woman

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Let a Man Show You Who He Is

Let a man show you who he is, before you open yourself.⁠

This is not about inherently mistrusting men,⁠

Or being unreceptive.⁠

It is about self-honouring & patience.⁠

Allowing him to show you who he is,⁠

Rather than seeing him purely through the lens of your hopes & desires (AKA who you WANT him to be).⁠

Not only does this build inner trust,⁠

It communicates high worth.⁠

It communicates that you are not available to just anyone.⁠

And you are willing to wait for the right man,⁠

Who can meet & honour your heart.⁠

Many of us did not receive the connection & adoration (especially from our fathers) that we needed, and thus we learned early on to over-give or become overly available, so we could get our needs met.⁠

Our early imprinting is one of 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐲 of connection.⁠

This carries on into romantic relating where we innocently open ourselves and then hope he shows up in the way we desire.⁠

It is beautiful to navigate life with an open heart,⁠

AND what allows the heart to remain open is the safety of clear boundaries.⁠

If you struggle with this kind of patience, I invite you to explore what arises for you at the idea of waiting for a man to show you who he is.⁠

Fear that he will lose interest?⁠

Fear of lack of attention?⁠

Fear that you’ll be left with no connection at all?⁠

Be super gentle with these fears, as they are often rooted in very young experiences.⁠

Integration occurs through learning to hold & meet these fears, so that the inner adult can draw healthy boundaries without the inner child sabotaging them.⁠