Let a Man Show You Who He Is
Let a man show you who he is, before you open yourself.
This is not about inherently mistrusting men,
Or being unreceptive.
It is about self-honouring & patience.
Allowing him to show you who he is,
Rather than seeing him purely through the lens of your hopes & desires (AKA who you WANT him to be).
Not only does this build inner trust,
It communicates high worth.
It communicates that you are not available to just anyone.
And you are willing to wait for the right man,
Who can meet & honour your heart.
Many of us did not receive the connection & adoration (especially from our fathers) that we needed, and thus we learned early on to over-give or become overly available, so we could get our needs met.
Our early imprinting is one of 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐲 of connection.
This carries on into romantic relating where we innocently open ourselves and then hope he shows up in the way we desire.
It is beautiful to navigate life with an open heart,
AND what allows the heart to remain open is the safety of clear boundaries.
If you struggle with this kind of patience, I invite you to explore what arises for you at the idea of waiting for a man to show you who he is.
Fear that he will lose interest?
Fear of lack of attention?
Fear that you’ll be left with no connection at all?
Be super gentle with these fears, as they are often rooted in very young experiences.
Integration occurs through learning to hold & meet these fears, so that the inner adult can draw healthy boundaries without the inner child sabotaging them.