Developing Embodied Boundaries

The cultivation of embodied boundaries that occurs as a result of journeying with our inner landscape results in a clear emanation extending from our centre.

Embodied boundaries are sets of radiating forcefields that extend from our inner realms, creating naturally-occurring protection barriers that determine the pace, tone and way of relating that we require for harmony.

As we relate with the world around us, we can encounter aspects of our own field that contain punctures, leaks & incomplete processes. Examples and indications of this may include: experiencing depressive states, highly anxious states, difficulty with emotional regulation while relating with others, dissociation from the present moment, and so on.

The Work

This deeper work may look like bringing presence to different aspects of our being that appear to be in conflict, or engaging in practices that establish safety, stability and acceptance within oneself.

As we integrate various aspects of self - especially aspects related to our early development - we initiate a process in which boundary lines are naturally set in our nervous system, which then activate the forcefield that is responsible for what we allow in, and out, of our personal space (physical and not).

These boundary lines - which are really the outer edges of the energetic forcefield at varying extensions from our centre - strengthen in their development each time we reconnect with & inquire into our inner experience.

Through inner inquisition, we generate refined clarity around our needs & desires. We also encounter “old information” in our beings that can include stories of insecurity, shame, self-abandonment, and outsourcing. And as we offer safety & acceptance to these places within us, we begin to deepen into the recognition of our inherent value & radiance.

Our way of being in the world can begin to drastically shift as we become further attuned and aware of what *truly* does and does not feel nourishing/life serving.

What is incongruent with the value and brilliance we are discovering internally, becomes felt on a deeper level. The pain of living incongruently with our true nature becomes unbearable and unnecessary. To continue in our old patterns would be an act of self harm, and would perpetuate internal disconnect from our authentic core.

Integrated State

If we do not prioritize the exploration of our core desires & needs, what we think we want, need, and are attracted to can be distorted, unstable and ultimately incomplete.

Boundaries are not walls - they are not intended to cultivate isolation or separateness, but rather enriched environments where appropriate connection can occur and flourish within each state and stage of closeness/togetherness.

We can think of boundaries as mesh screens, that are staggered together, allowing for various rings of closeness/connectivity to occur depending on the extent that safety and regulation is experienced amongst each layer.

The things, environments, & people who truly meet you within the requirements you carry - will reside within the closer rings, while those who don’t will reside within the rings that extend further from your more vulnerable areas (physically and not). This is essential to maintaining the safety & regulation that your nervous system requires to blossom into its fullest expression.

Self-Inquiry

Are you feeling unclear about boundaries in your life currently? Take some time to connect with yourself - gift yourself with the spaciousness to identify your core values, and explore what arises as you do this. The purpose of this is to strengthen and stabilize the foundation you are standing upon. From here, the boundary work may become more apparent.

Another [ongoing] practice is to deepen in your self love, worthiness and devotion by becoming radically honest with yourself around what feels truly nourishing, stabilizing and healthy for your system, life and overall well-being.

This also involves feeling the impacts of that which is NOT life-giving. Give yourself permission to say "no more," and notice what that stance evokes within you. You may find that disappointment or fears arise as you liberate yourself from that which has not been aligned with your greatest wellbeing. Know that this is normal and as you progress through this process, the organic emanation of your boundaries will occur, supporting the continued uncovering of the brilliance that you are.

Written by Jordi Klassen

Jordi is a homesteading Mother to two Daughters, and is passionate about shifting the conventional narrative we as a society hold around core aspects of life including sexuality, livelihood, life's transitions, learning, and the way that we show up within them. Jordi believes that through welcoming true nourishment, presence and reciprocity, we can rectify a life that is attuned to the natural world and the innate physiologic design we carry as Human beings. Follow Jordi on Instagram @she.momma_.