Choosing NOT to set a boundary for the good of another person is never actually about the highest good of that person.

It is about your inability to face what you’d have to face in yourself, if you set it.⁠

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You undermine that person’s power (and the perfection of their spiritual journey) by assuming you are serving them by not setting the boundary that would be healthiest for you.⁠

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Furthermore, you prevent them from hitting the “rock bottom” that they may need to reach in order to transform.⁠

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Can you see how arrogant it is to assume that you know what is best for this person?⁠

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To assume that you are HELPING them by overstepping yourself?⁠

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Now that we know you are 𝗻𝗼𝘁 serving them by overstepping yourself,⁠

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What remains?⁠

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All the reasons you’re actually afraid to draw the boundary:⁠

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Losing connection,⁠

Being alone,⁠

Being disliked,⁠

Being a "bad" or "selfish" parent/partner/child…⁠

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All very valid fears! And likely something the inner little one experienced or learned at some point.⁠

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Magic happens when we can recognize this, hold the little one, and free both ourselves and the other from codependent entanglement, and instead relate in truth.⁠