Why the Feminine Becomes Controlling

When the feminine is unable to recognize where her subtle boundaries are, she will proceed to allow herself to be taken deeper but will do so in a 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 manner in which she requires him to meet her in a very very specific way in order to feel safe. ⁠
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I witnessed this in myself just last weekend. ⁠
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We continued to push things deeper in the bedroom and I didn’t recognize my body’s “no” soon enough. ⁠
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So my INVITATION for him to meet me in a particular way became a DEMAND and I became agitated when he couldn’t meet me there. ⁠
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The irony is that when the invitation occurs as a controlling demand to the masculine, where she *REQUIRES* him to show up in a specific way in order for her to feel safe within herself, he will want to run the other way. ⁠
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He may not be aware of why he feels this way, but it’s because her invitation is no longer an invitation into love & freedom, it is an expression of the immature, needy feminine. ⁠
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In addition, he will experience your controllingness as distrust & rejection because you are insisting that he meets you in such a SPECIFIC range that there is actually no breathing room for him to explore & figure out how to meet you in the way you desire. ⁠
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When the feminine can’t recognize her empowered “no” which is an expression of her own inner masculine, she becomes completely reliant on the outer masculine to provide safety. ⁠
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She becomes controlling because she literally NEEDS him to show up a certain way. ⁠
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Hence the importance of being attuned to herself and cultivating her inner masculine, so that she can experience safety within herself and he can ENHANCE the safety of the container rather than being the one solely responsible for it. ⁠
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This was the key for me to finally feel MET by a man sexually. ⁠
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My inner masculine cultivation 🔑 ⁠
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When this clicked for me, the quality of men I attracted shifted dramatically and I finally attracted a man that I DO feel met by. ⁠