The Underlying Cause of Low Libido

Many women who attribute their lack of libido to spending too much time in their "masculine", are actually on a hamster wheel of trying to create external safety for themselves - while being unable to find safety in their own body. ⁠
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Being in a perpetually stressed-out state is not the result of a stressful life, it is a reflection of a nervous system that does not feel safe to slow down. ⁠
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This is why, for some women, pleasure practices can feel like just another chore. ⁠
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Because actually slowing down, coming into the body, and feeling pleasure threatens the "safety" that busyness and stress provides. ⁠
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Personally, I used to be addicted to adrenaline & stress. ⁠
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It gave me a sense of excitement and safety that helped me avoid a deep underlying sense of panic & unsafety in my body that existed from a young age. ⁠
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Contrary to what you may have been told - the way to shift this is not to FORCE yourself to slow down & be present... as this can feel traumatic, unsafe, and jarring. ⁠
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It is to invite safety. ⁠
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We can do this by starting to have conversations with the inner child & our own nervous system, asking her what would support her in the present moment to feel more at ease. ⁠
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The more safety we find in the body, the more we can access our natural state of feminine receptivity - and thus the more our life force (libido!) and capacity to feel pleasure will come online & flourish.