Attracting a Man Who CHOOSES You Fully

If you want him to choose you fully, you must first choose yourself. ⁠
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Let’s be real & acknowledge the fact that very few of us received the high quality presence & attention (i.e. connection & nervous system attunement) that we needed as a young child. ⁠
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So we learned ways to receive “more” of it (although not nearly enough). ⁠
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This included adopting attention-seeking behaviours or learning that if we overstep or overextend ourselves (i.e. no boundaries) we can receive more love/safety. ⁠
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This carries over into adulthood where the same dynamic plays out... abandoning the self & the inner child in the hopes that the external world will finally give you what you need. ⁠
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You want the external masculine to finally CHOOSE you & love you completely, but your inner masculine doesn’t attract this. ⁠
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How do you shift this? ⁠
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You become the caretaker, lover, & guardian of your inner child. You attune yourself to YOUR OWN nervous system, and learn how to radically honour yourself. ⁠
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There is no more- “maybe if I compromise myself in this way, I can receive more of what I want/need” ⁠
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HE will honour you as a reflection of you honouring yourself. ⁠
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Yes- when you first begin to set these boundaries, you will feel the grief of losing relationships that have been maintained by a dynamic in which you overstep yourself to receive connection. ⁠
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This is actually a process of meeting the already-present pain of your inner child. ⁠
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The pain of the child who never received what she needed. ⁠

The more you can meet this pain in yourself, the less you need to cling to sub-par relationships that you unconsciously use to avoid feeling this. ⁠
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And the more you become a vibrational match for the external masculine to choose & honour you in return.