Masculine Capacity to Create Safety for the Feminine

The masculine who desires to provide safety for the feminine,

Can only do so TO THE EXTENT that he can provide safety for his inner little boy.

👉 If he has not learned to BE with his own overwhelm,

👉 If he has not integrated the trauma around NOT being supported in the way he needed as a child,

👉 If he has not become attuned to his little boy’s needs and learned to set BOUNDARIES which honour these needs,

The depth of safety he can offer the feminine is limited by this.

𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐬𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐲.

𝐍𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐬𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐭𝐲 𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞.

This is why embodied TRAUMA WORK at the level of the nervous system is an absolute must BEFORE trying to embody many of the higher-level spiritual principles in relating.

Because he can intend to hold a strong container but the feminine’s energy & emotions will blow him out in no time if he has not done the deeper nervous system work.

Again - in my experience this has largely to do with creating safety for the inner little one, first.

Addressing the unmet needs of the inner child and learning to meet them as an adult.

Personally as I have done more of this work there is literally a feeling of transitioning from a child’s nervous system into a true adult.

The difference in capacity is night/day and it becomes very clear in any given moment when the inner child or the adult is running the show.