Choosing Nurturance Over Challenge in Relating

As soon as you find yourself playing a game of relational “chess,”⁠ ⁠

Feeling the pressure to be or express in the right way to achieve the outcome you desire,⁠ ⁠

You’ve got to stop and assess - 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩?⁠ ⁠

And this isn’t about jumping to making the other person wrong. ⁠ ⁠

It’s just a reality check. ⁠ ⁠

If you are trying to 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭, you are not coming from a place of safety, you’re coming from trauma. ⁠ ⁠

At the deepest level this is about lack of safety within self. ⁠ ⁠

But it is also, just practically, about the fact that the relationship dynamic & patterns may not be nourishing or fitting in a way that supports your blossoming. ⁠ ⁠

It’s ok to acknowledge this. ⁠ ⁠

We don’t always need to figure out how to grow in difficult conditions.⁠ ⁠

Sometimes the greatest growth comes from choosing nurturance rather than constant challenge 🌱⁠