A Sign of Immense Progress in Your Relational Healing Journey (Short Excerpt)

A sign of immense progress in your relational healing journey is when your first movement whilst triggered is to accompany yourself with high quality presence, rather than reactively attempting to establish safety & harmony with the other.

This is especially important when it comes to being able to de-escalate from a trauma vortex or mutually triggering scenario in relationship.⁠

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Because in these scenarios where patterns are colliding with patterns, if we persist in trying to make the other person see, understand, or support us when they are also activated, the trauma vortex will only escalate further.⁠

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The ability to recognize when this is occurring in relationship as early as possible, and to resource as 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐬 so that both nervous systems can de-escalate before coming back together in a place of safety, is key 🔑⁠