BIG Sexual Energy as a Child

If you had big sexual energy as a child then chances are one (or both) of these things happened:⁠

1️⃣you received unwanted (often predatory-like) attention⁠ from a VERY young age⁠

2️⃣you were rejected for it due to the shame it brought up in those around you ⁠

(eg. male family figures who felt attraction to this energy and then ashamed for that attraction)⁠

This creates a VERY confusing imprint around your sexuality.⁠

On one hand you learn that it gets you attention (which is actually vital to your survival in those early years).⁠

On the other hand you learn that it loses you the attention of those you want it from the most.⁠

PLUS you feel THEIR shame and thus will have a deep association between sexuality & shame embedded in your nervous system.⁠

Underneath all of this, your big sexual energy is a massive gift that you have to share with the world.⁠

So there's a HUGE longing to embody & express it fully as your way of giving & receiving LOVE.⁠

It's your way of sharing your essence.⁠

And there's a massive pain around the fact that it's so hard for you to do so because of this early imprinting.⁠

Not to mention the cultural conditioning & overt shaming/control of female sexuality that you were exposed to most of your life.⁠

Sound like you?⁠

How do we heal from this?

A big part of this work is holding the little girl inside you who never received the love, adoration, & healthy engagement with her sexual energy that she needed.⁠

The first step is being super gentle with these young parts.⁠

It's easy to want to override these patterns in your nervous system by going FULL OUT and trying to overcome all the shame - but remember that with a huge expansion comes a huge contraction.⁠

It's best to go slow, resource your nervous system, and allow yourself plenty of time to integrate each time you venture into a new realm of erotic expression.⁠