Feel it to Heal It (Is This Always True?)

When you have learned to be present to activation in your nervous system, it is no longer necessary to deeply immerse yourself in it. 

At first, yes, it is necessary to learn to be able to sit in the fire, to break the many patterns of avoidance.

But after this point, the next step is learning how to resource your nervous system WHILE feeling the feels. 

So as not to become overwhelmed or unhealthily immersed in the activations.

In the conscious community many of us have learned, “feel it to heal it”

And yes, feeling is integral to the healing.

But most important of all is to learn to dance with the right depth of presence.

The level of presence that allows feeling/integration but also keeps the nervous system from getting overwhelmed or re-traumatized.

For those that have become so used to sitting in the fire,

You can begin to recognize when there is an unhealthiness to it by noticing when an emotion wants to be felt, and re-felt, and re-felt…

There’s something that almost feels “good” or addictive about re-feeling the activation

And you think you’re doing the “deep healing”

But it is also just fatiguing you.

To find this balance I often use the tool of re-orienting:

Feeling the activation but when it starts to feel too intense,

I look around the room,

Notice my surroundings,

Feel my feet on the ground,

Allow the mind to focus on something else,

Have a more casual conversation with someone…

This is not avoidance, this is resourcing.

How do you resource yourself while “sitting in the fire”?

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