How to Become Receptive to Your Longing

Longing must be combined with receptivity in order to work as an attractive force in our lives. We cannot embody receptivity if we cannot first tolerate BEING with the longing in our own body.

When a need/longing/ache arises,  

The most common movement is to reach outwards.

To want 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 to satisfy this for us.   

This is where clingyness,  

Grabbiness,  

Manipulation,  

& Codependency come into play.  

Various unconscious efforts to get the need/longing met EXTERNALLY.   

But the truth is that the longing becomes fulfilled externally once we first meet it in ourselves.   

When we can be with it 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 to such an extent that it starts to feel EXQUISITE to feel it.   

When this occurs, the attachment to having it met externally dissipates.   

And that’s the very moment the thing we want shows up.   

Because longing is an ATTRACTIVE force, when it comes with no-strings-attached.   

When the longing is CLEAN.  

And it only becomes clean when our nervous system develops the capacity to meet & hold it.   

When our nervous system integrates the trauma of NOT being met in the way we needed as a child.   

Until then, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 & 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬.   

Control is a different frequency than receptivity.   

This is the deeper understanding of why the thing we want shows up when we no longer “need” it to.   

Once we can meet something in ourselves, the nervous system isn’t using control to try and cope.  

And thus the longing combined with receptivity = the receiving of what we truly want.   

This is also why I have no interest in planning, step-by-step, how I will reach my next $$$ goal in business. 

Because it occurs in my body as a means to control. 

I trust my capacity. I trust the journey. I trust the timing. 

I have reached every $$$ goal so far with ease. 

By ease, I mean it has occurred as EASEFUL in my body. The journey & the result. 

I just crossed another big $$$ goal this month and again there was zero 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 for it. 

It works like this: 

I have a longing to hold a certain amount of $$$ and I also desire to honour my nervous system’s capacity in the process of getting there. 

To force is to push beyond the nervous system capacity and when we do this we inevitably experience a contraction to an equal extent. 

The nervous system cannot sustainably grow thru force & pushing beyond its capacity. 

Back to my initial point: 

The longing gets met externally when we have the CAPACITY to meet it in ourselves and thus we can become truly receptive to the thing we want.