Surrender Comes From Safety

 

You’ve probably heard that what makes the feminine attractive is her capacity for surrender.⁠

Many teachers speak to this but many DON’T talk about the journey required to access true surrender.⁠

If you’re simply trying to force yourself to open, relax, & surrender, you are more than likely just violating your own boundaries.⁠

You can’t force surrender.⁠


In fact, the deepest surrender is sometimes about ACCEPTING the resistance.⁠

Honouring the part of yourself that does NOT want to surrender.⁠

Because surrender comes from SAFETY.⁠

And if you have not cultivated this safety within yourself through the cultivation of your *inner masculine*, ⁠


Your capacity for surrender will be minimal.⁠

Many women desire a man with deep presence to hold a safe container for them so that they CAN feel safe to surrender,⁠

And yet the men you attract into your life will ALWAYS reflect the depth of your own inner masculine.⁠

WHAT IS THE INNER MASCULINE?⁠


It’s your capacity to be unwaveringly present to chaos (in your inner AND outer world)⁠

It's your capacity to pierce your own thoughts, stories, & patterns with the light of pure awareness to see them for what they really are.⁠

It’s your capacity to TRUST yourself. Not trusting that nothing painful will ever happen to you, but knowing deeply that you will be OK.⁠

And it's your capacity to draw FIRM boundaries and honour yourself, without withdrawing the love.⁠

This inner cultivation makes it safe for you to rest in your FEMININE.⁠


Independent of who or what is going on in the outside world.⁠

And in this deep resting, not only will you ATTRACT the masculine presence you desire,⁠

But you won’t be frustrated AF, longing to be polarized into your feminine but feeling powerless to get there without a fantasy man to take you.⁠

As always, it starts with you ❤️✨⁠