Become a Connoisseur of Feeling Good
Which path is more challenging: working hard, or being committed to *not* working hard?
For the last 6 years, I’ve been in the exploration of doing only what feels good & right to me.
This exploration has been especially potent in business, and has included things like:
saying no to potentially lucrative business & marketing opportunities (like being invited onto popular podcasts, selling WAANDS products on Amazon, and various partnership opportunities)
continuously posting on social media for 4.5 years, growing a 30k following, then dropping off almost entirely for the past 2.5 years (while hearing a voice in my head scolding me for under-utilizing a valuable platform)
going through rather long periods of low tangible “output” while being in deep spiritual explorations
dying to my business vision countless times (meaning, being prepared to let it all go), in service of discovering what’s actually alive in me
Part of being committed to doing only what I want to do, has involved constantly being in the study of when & how I end up doing things I don’t want to do.
It has also involved a lot of criticism & judgment.
From others but also within myself.
Accusations of being entitled, lazy, unrealistic, childish, selfish, out-of-touch, inconsistent, and so on…
And yet there has been a different kind of “hard work” associated with this path.
The work of combing through & meeting all the patterns, beliefs, & feelings that pull me from my centre and my commitment to feeling good.
Ironically, part of what is required to be in devotion to feeling good, is being prepared to meet a lot of what does NOT feel good.
Frequently, this involves meeting fear, and noticing what kinds of actions & decisions arise to quell the fear.
The most recent version of this for me, was the creeping in of a voice that said:
“Feeling good has gotten you here, but it won’t take you to the next level.”
This got louder when I made the big move to the US.
Even though the most significant growth and money milestones in my business have come from total ease (without exception),
And the endeavors & investments I’ve made while NOT coming from a place of feeling good (i.e. some form of obligation, fear, or self mistrust crept in) resulted in plateaus or losses,
(Again, without exception),
I began to reach another “upper limit” in myself for how much I believed I could achieve & receive while staying completely aligned with feeling good & easeful.
One cheeky conversation that has occurred (more than once) with my partner on this topic goes something like…
Me: Sharing my frustration around the need to grow my business.
Him: Asking valuable questions & engaging with my concerns.
Me: Majorly resisting or rejecting any kind of inquiry he’s bringing to me.
Him: Noticing my resistance & sensing my body…
Him: “Babe, I think you’re being hijacked by some kind of projection or something in your mind telling you you have to do these things. Your body actually seems to feel pretty great about where you are.”
Me: Relaxing completely…
Me: “Feels true. Thank you.”
The fears & stories that arise along this kind of path are no joke…
“Grow or die”: If you’re not seeing a specific kind of growth, everything will go to sh*t and you’ll experience inevitable financial decline until there’s nothing left!
Comparison: Look where that person has gotten to! You must be doing something wrong if you’re trailing so far behind!
Condemnation: You really think you can have ALL that you want, while doing ONLY what you want?
These are the kinds of initiations we must build capacity to find our centre within, in order to stay committed to feeling good.
So what do you think?
Is it more challenging to work hard, or to be committed to *not* working hard?
Personally, I’m more interested in asking: What do I VALUE?
Because what looks like “hard work” to one person, can feel like the path of highest pleasure to someone else.
What drains one person’s energy, can feel like the most worthy & energizing path to another.
How do we discern the difference?
We consult an intelligence that cannot lie:
The body.
By uncovering & attuning to the body’s wisdom, we can access an internal “GPS” system that is always providing feedback on:
What feels good, what’s aligned, what’s alive, what has energy…
What obligation feels like, what fear feels like & how we respond to it, what feels like “work”, what has us feel LESS connected to ourselves…
And for women desiring to access even deeper layers of discernment & self-knowing,
We uncover & attune to the intelligence of PUSSY.
(She happens to be very specific about what feels good, and what does not 😉).
If you’re ready to commune more deeply with your body in devotion to creating a life that feels good, join me for the journey here.